Love Making (verbal
Foreplay)
Love Making (Verbal Foreplay)
For most people the act of talking during sex is quite
intimidating. Usually a
person is afraid they'll say the wrong thing and kill the
mood, or reveal a
little too much about their desires. If you're willing to
overcome this fear
you will find that an aural addition can incredibly heighten
the sensual
stimulation you're both receiving. Many couples write in
asking how can they
add this enhancement to their current relationship. Here are
a few pointers.
First, be sincere. Nothing can kill the mood faster than
scripted verse. Be
honest about what you are saying and feeling. Your partner
will definitely be
able to notice if you're not.
Talk about what you are feeling. This is an easy way to
segue into verbal
foreplay. If something feels good, tell your partner, and be
specific about it.
If you like it when they do something make sure to let them
know.
Talk about what you would like. Take to heart the old
saying, "If you ask for
it you just might get it." Tell your partner what you enjoy.
(For example, "I
like it when you..." or "Do it like...")
Tell a fantasy. Open up a bit and tell your partner one of
your fantasies. This
can be a great turn on especially if you're whispering into
their ear while
you're making love.
Act out a character role. Sometimes being yourself can be
intimidating. One way
to get around that is to act in character. There are many
role-playing options
such as doctor/nurse, slave/master, teacher/student,
cop/robber, etc. You may
find it easier to approach verbal arousal while in
character.
Remember, if you're uncomfortable doing something, just
don't do it.
When you are ready here are a few suggestions of phrases
that others
would enjoy hearing from their partners.
Their name
I love you
I love being inside of you
If I could to choose how to die, I'd want this to be last
thing I ever felt.
You are fantastic, you drive me insane, and I cannot get
enough of your love.
You're beautiful.
You feel wonderful.
Oooh baby that feels so good!
God you're incredible
I am your slave!
I wish everyday could be like this.
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