Valentine Tips (Boys)
You've Got To Talk To Her
 

What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood, your therapist, your plans for the future, the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And, by the way, what would be the "right" thing to say? Do you have a clue?

Most guys don't. When your average gent converses with a woman, he's basically just flailing blindly at the wind, hoping by chance that something he says will "connect" with the woman and make her fall for him.

Needless to say, this is not the "Don Juan" way of doing things. You need to have a plan. You need to know what definitely works and what doesn't, what to talk about and what not to talk about. You don't want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. You want to be charming and in control.

What To Say

And that's what we're going to discuss right now. Now there are many many aspects of a conversation. This particular article focuses on the conversational topics that you should focus on when wooing a beautiful lady.

Those topics which will almost guarantee increased interpersonal attraction. Topics which will leave you in complete charge of the conversation, and which will leave you the option, if you desire, of future conversations, dates, or an intense romantic relationship. Are you getting excited? Okay, so what exactly do you talk about?

Well, the first thing to remember is that men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're "impressing" the women when, in reality, they're "depressing" the women. Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you're saying doesn't necessarily mean she really is.

She might just be acting polite while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

So key number one is don't talk too much! Try not to monopolize the conversation and try to listen to what she has to say. Almost everyone is incredibly interested in what they themselves have to say. People will talk to you about themselves for as long as you will listen.

Signs Of Arousal


Wide, easy smiles accompanied with a relaxed face. She blushes frequently and her skin tone become redder.

She maintains eye contact throughout and her pupils are dilated (they become larger). She would often blink more frequently than usual and her eye lashes flutter. You might even notice a sparkle in her eye. The eyes are windows to the soul and are one of the most accurate ways of telling if she is attracted to you.

Subconscious biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, wetting her lips or even chewing her fingernails.

While talking, she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass (or any cylindrical object) up and down with her thumb and index finger. (reveals what she is thinking of, if you get my meaning) She might also be fiddling with her jewelry.

She starts sitting up and her arms aren't limp. If her crossed leg is pointing in your general direction and rocking back and forth.

She adjusts the tone and pitch of her voice to match yours. In fact, any sigh that she is mimicking you can be taken as a sign of interest. For example, laughing in unison or crossing her legs if you've crossed yours.

She winks at you in the middle of a conversation or even from a distance. This means she really is interested in you. Even exposing the palms of her hand facing you show that she might be interested in you as it has been proven to be a subconscious sign telling you that she has nothing to hide.

She twirls her hair around her fingers or perhaps strokes her hair lightly with her hand while maintaining eye contact.

Good Luck!

HAPPY VALENTINE DAY!